Advice invites you to question why you are investing your support,  effort and care in those persons.  Maybe this is an inappropriate choice,  maybe it is adverse to your interests like a stockbroker who manages your account for his commissions.  Does this fellow or gal you are babying love you?  Why the fights if you guys are lovers?  So why am I trying and giving so much -  because of what connection?  If I'm struggling so hard for you,  partner,  what are you doing for me?

ROMANCE:  A Fool for Love (Page of Cups + Lovers)
So why am I trying and giving so much - because of what connection?
He is making an idiot of himself, he tries so hard to bond with the woman who has it all.
If I'm struggling so hard for you, partner, what are you doing for me?
Why is she trying so hard to be in charge of her partner's money?
He is looking so foolish trying so hard to hook up with moneyed women.
He wonders how such a generous girl friend can be so violent.
Why am I fighting with the woman I love?
You two fight because she is an inappropriate partner.
Why am I trying so hard to get her to love me?
Fighting with this idiot when you could be doting on an equal.
Fighting with this idiot woman you are in love with.
Should I invest energy in this love relationship?
But does she like rough loving, he wonders.
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So how much effort should a caretaking woman put into the man she loves?
If you connect with him, Girl, shouldn't he be trying too?
What kind of lover fights the woman who is devoted to him?
She really cares for this misfit as he struggles against any kind of bond.
Oh how she struggles not to be in love with this funny little fella.
She is making an idiot of herself, she tries so hard to bond with him.
So is it love or is he just trying to get her to support him?
She seems able to handle a violent lover.
Should she be trying to get him to love her?
How foolishly she invests effort and love.
Why is Loverboy giving the woman who does so much ...