Advice is about transitions in male behavior …  transition between being a respectable person who is attractive to others and being an irresponsible funloving brat …  going in either direction.  Very emphatic that he is making this change himself in himself.  No one else accounts for who a guy is:  He makes the choices and the image he makes is his …  and is him.  "Our fine boy is turning himself into a delinquent."  

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