Advice is about how bullies,  thugs,  people who take advantage are spoiling for a fight that they enjoy in their dumb way. The question is 'Shall we keep what is ours or let the marauder take it?  Maybe he is so antagonistic because he wants you to divorce or split up with him. "How can I enjoy life when they arrest me for stealing and beating up people?"  Their intimidation has backfired,  and aren't you doing fine now?           ===============================================================...