GUIDANCE          One disgruntled apple spoils the whole happy barrel. Doesn't matter whether that person is self-sacrificing, or is justified in the disgruntled position, the barrel still spoils. Demanding what you are entitled to (even respect) when you have been self-sacrificing for the sake of others' happiness labels you as the nag (Mama-bat). So consider self-sacrifice a vice, and share from the beginning in the benefits of membership of the clan so you will be respected as an equal. We ta...