Guidance     The gist of the message these guys convey to us is to invest our effort and our social participation wisely. Emphasis is on what I call “You don't have to answer the phone just because it rings … or the doorbell.” Emphasis is on withholding ourselves from socializing or engaging in activity where we are not respected or appreciated. Also, on ignoring people who start fights with us. But in the same breath “Don't be indifferent when it's right to be involved.”   Instructions: Ar...