Advice is about the lovely dysfunctional clan we all seem to be members of, making the point that you can be in the family (or any group) as a member but not be of the family. You can disregard their expectations and plans for you, just be thinking about something else and 'doing your own thing,' not theirs. You did not sign on for the feud, you have no part in each fella's petty agenda. (You are better than they.)

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