Guidance      Too much of a good thing is still too much: It gums up the works from both ends, the giver's and the receiver's.    Here's a woman who takes care of whatever she loves until it doesn't love her.   We also point out that an excess of resourcefulness and competence is intimidating (rather than being appreciated). Then we declare that just doing it, instead of worrying about whether you are competent to, or whether you're the one to do it – just grabbing the wheel – often pays off ro...