Guidance    There's a code of silence about problems we as a family or community deal with, but there's always that one open mouth who says the emperor's flaccid butt is hanging out while we are admiring the integrity of his wardrobe. Yes, it's usually a young person who does that whistle-blowing. But once the ice is broken and the cat is out of the bag, yes, there's a chance we … or one of us with the skill and the nerve … and that's usually a woman … will apply a solution. This fix can be a sp...