Guidance     We are putting a flashlight on the underside or the backside of problems: How people can get together over any grievance, any nasty ugly thing and enjoy the success of managing it; and conversely how the perfect storybook family or community could be made up of petty controlling hateful folks. The perfect wife and mother who makes everyone happy may hate her life. To some, even a perfect marriage is a problem. The worst people have the money.   Are YOU here for the first time? ...