Advice contrasts total involvement and disengaging entirely; being all for it or all against it.  It is about walking away from the scene you are part of as a member - like family, team, community, the values you currently reflect.  But it is also about not fighting it, not fighting with people, not being involved with people even, and not struggling to make the income that makes you 'one of the good people of the community.'

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