Wrecks change us. Wrecks change the people around us. Wrecks – ours and theirs – are turning points … are changes of direction … in the biography of our lives. These are the things we remember the dates of, and count down to. Pain etches landmarks on everyone’s life. Pain focuses us on what’s really going on. I am stronger than what lays me low. If I hadn’t crashed, I would not be where I am now, or who I am now.