Tip #1
Like there are ‘good hair days’ there are good Tarot days.

Sometimes it’s not a good Tarot day and the cards may be talking using different cards than they would on the good day. You accommodate, and you learn your ‘bad Tarot days’ ways of Tarot speak. Over time.

Tip #2
THE ‘WHY’ ABOUT THE GALS WHO BEWAIL HOW THEIR MEN TREAT THEM

In real life, instinct plays a role. Mammals. Humans are mammals. Mammals tend to have this instinct that the male owns the turf and fights other males but lets the females on His turf because females mate with us, make more of us, and do not compete for turf.

In humans, this instinct will bequeath some females with the victim mentality, expecting to be passive and be ‘taken care of.’ A distress call, their instinct tells them, will bring the rescue. Well, most male mammals are not caretakers, that’s for the females, to take care of the young.

Supposedly, humans rise above that. NOPE. Society used to be arranged to force a male human to (1) get married, (2) have children, (3) support them and live with them. It used to be that a young man (of the right appearance and character) could expect a beginner’s job (bag boy), could be promoted and get more money when he got married, and could expect more money when he became a father. The MANTRA was “He has a family to support.” This mantra never applies to a female – ever.

This mantra, back in the day, was the foundation of women not being allowed to have jobs except temporary ones designed for an unmarried woman. Quite often those jobs had a time limit: You could teach school for two years ‘until she marries.’ That phrase was in the contracts of employment for schoolteachers back in the day.

So it’s instinct for some underdeveloped women to, in this new phase of our civilization, moan and whine about not being taken care of. It’s masochistic too.

A divorcing man back then lost his job and was unlikely to get another. Ditto for a man who was prosecuted for abuse of spouse or children. (But the courts seldom convicted them BECAUSE it was such a disgrace.)

Florida was populated by divorced people who were runaways from this institution when divorce became more common—in the Sixties when I began court reporting.

Tip #3
DOING READINGS FOR YOURSELF AND IT’S NOT THE SAME?

Pretend—and phrase your question that way – that you ARE someone else. Think of another person you do readings for, or a relative or friend, and ask from that person’s perspective. Sometimes this helps.

Tip #4
How to speak with Tarot for the best result. Tarot is a bridge between your regular ol’ conscious mind and your subconscious or even superconscious mind. You talk with your subconscious when you use Tarot, and the longer you stay on the bridge there between consciousnesses, the stronger the bridge becomes until you are a citizen of that place.

The purpose of my site and my work is to establish the fact that you don’t need spirit guides or anything paranormal (unless you consider the subconscious paranormal) to obtain useful detailed focused information on a subject of your choice. I establish that the phrases that grow out of Rider Waite’s illustrations, when you directly read those pictures as words, build a bridge connecting the conscious and the subconscious. Therefore, what you access is your own, and you can proceed to discover your Self, including its moldy corners you would just as soon not air.

And if you do use spirit guides, you can use this Tarot verbatim way of reading the pictures directly as words when your spirit guides’ phone is on airplane mode.