She knows he is scared to marry her, but he will do it

Magician Queen of Cups, Nine of Swords, Ten of Cups

Romance and Marriage Perspective: He is going to marry a woman who believes in him and live happily ever after: He is upset over this. She knows he is scared to marry her, but he will do it. He is afraid she knows he is going to marry her. His wife’s family is upset about what he is doing. She is up nights crying about what he does to the family. The family is afraid of what the wife is thinking of doing. He is afraid his wife and family have figured out what he is doing. Everyone is happy he did what he was afraid to do:  She had faith in him. She knows how making everyone in the family happy gets on his nerves. He puts himself through hell to make a good life for the wife. She is afraid of what he is doing with his family members. She has him figured out:  He is afraid of what his family will do. They are such a happy couple, she know it makes him nervous to pull that off.

Diverse stories here arise (as usual) from the ‘spoiler’ card, in this case the Nine of Swords.  Take it out, and you have a man who is going to marry the woman who loves and admires him, or is married to her.  That card is one of the fear/nightmare ones.  Sooo, you have to choose the scenario that fits your story:  most likely, the guy who is going to marry but is afraid to.  In-laws could be involved as ‘family’ here.  Warning:  Trying to think of all these could make you cross-eyed!

Meanings and Illustrations:

Queen of Cups: This is the nice girl, the good wife, the woman who understands him and believes in him and has faith in him.  The woman who has figured him out, or who ‘knows all about him’ as well.  She is the dreamy (romantic) type, you can tell, as she contemplates that antiquey vessel she so carefully balances on her right hand in the Rider Waite version of Tarot.  All the water means she is emotional.  And, of course, she is blond.  ‘Vanilla.’  Here, she is the good wife, since the Ten of Cups, the happy and well-adjusted family, shares billing with her.

Nine of Swords: Nightmare, scared/scary, up nights crying, grief, afraid/fear, upset, gets on one’s nerves/makes one nervous, going through hell, and so on.  Illustration is one of the most obvious:  To sit up in bed, holding one’s head, in the middle of the night, crying.  The figure could be male or female. Ten of Cups: Another obvious card.  What else could it mean but things like happily ever after, good family, community of good people, good marriage, good life, happy couple, etc., with that illustration of the rainbow over the home, the children dancing and the embracing couple’s arms outstretched, in front of their massively endowed home? Magician: The man who does, the male takes initiative, he makes it happen, he brings it about, he does/did/is doing, he brings it about, he is the one who does it:  This is all about taking action, and the wife card is a passive one.  Saying she, the sweet gal, is ‘doing’ in this spread is a bit of a stretch, but not impossible.

May as well not compete with the clan

Fool Ten of Pentacles, Five of Wands, Four of Cups

The people around you are all fighting one another, don’t you be combative:  Ignore them. Don’t have anything to do with the backstabbing competitive people around you:  You don’t know them! May as well not compete with the clan. You don’t want to get involved with the in-laws, you aren’t related. Ignore the low-class neighbors when they fight as if you don’t hear them. It’s not exactly a mob war, but don’t ask. Not all the factions are fighting- or are even present. Well, yesterday there were so many possibilities for messages that I had to quit.  Today there are so few I have to quit.  First we have the dysfunctional bunch of people, then a big fight or competition (or involvement), followed by ‘refuse’ and ‘not even there’ or ‘forget about it.’ This is advice, as we had a short while ago, to not get involved in other people’s miasma, their quarrels and fights – to be above the fray.

Meanings and Illustrations:

Ten of Pentacles: Dysfunctional (screwed-up) bunch of folks could be any group.  Pictured on the Rider Waite version of this Tarot card is a family disagreement, a power struggle. Five of Wands: Illustration shows a bunch of guys energetically sparring with boards, whether in a game or in a fight.  And that is what is referred to here. Four of Cups: Hunh-huh, no way, no part of it, refuse each time!  This Rider Waite illustration shows a person refusing each time the hand from the clouds offers him a drink. Fool: Don’t even think!  Not present.  Have no connection, be entirely free like running away from home with your little dog.